Have a consistent goal: Give her an orgasm she’ll never forget.
Set Your Sex Life on Fire
You’ve no doubt got some premium moves when it comes to showing a woman a good time in bed. Hell, you might even have a reputation for being an orgasm donor. But no matter how skilled you are — or how satisfying your sex life may be — by adding a few new tricks to your bedside arsenal, you could be giving bigger, better and more intense orgasms to the ladies in your life.
We’re talking about the earth-shattering, thigh-quaking, claws-down-your-back, alarm-the-neighborhood, drench-the-mattress kinds of orgasms. You know the ones. … To help you reach these lofty goals, Penthouse has put together a few tips for upping your orgasm-giving game and taking your sex life to a whole new level of heat.
Slow Down!
Rule No. 1: If you want to get her worked up, you’ve got to slow down. We call it “sex life” for a reason. We don’t call it sex moments.
As tempting as it is to charge into a sexy situation like a bull in a vagina shop, if you want to give your play partner the kind of orgasms that will have her talking in tongues, then you need to take your time. After all, nothing is less of a turn-on — or dries a vagina quicker — than skipping the foreplay and zeroing in on penetration.
Start by setting a relaxing scene that’s conducive to a sexy time, turn on some titillating tunes and go for a slow and steady build. Take a concerted step to disconnect from the busy and distracting world and connect to each other. Then you can focus on nothing but being in the moment together.
The Sex Life journey begun.
Use Your Mouth
Put the “cum” in cummunicate, so to speak. Use your mouth — to talk to her.
Ask your date what turns her on. How does she like to be touched? What does she fantasize about when she touches herself? Figure out what gets her going and what she finds pleasurable. Encourage her to share. Then tell her you find it hot when she’s uninhibited.
Make sure she knows you are open-minded and won’t judge her. (And then do not judge her, fool.) Take her responses seriously and encourage her enthusiasm. Positive reinforcement will always be your friend in the sex life challenge.
By having these discussions — either before or during play — you’re not only going to learn what she wants and finds pleasurable. You’re also going to be building trust. Understand that “letting go” centers almost completely on trust. Simply put, being able to let go during sex plays a huge role in having more intense orgasms.
The Sex Life journey has turned the first corner.
Add Some Hardware
Sex toys serve as the ultimate wingmen when it comes to having better sex. Think about it: Some group of professionals put lot of time, money and expertise into designing them for a singular purpose — to administer pleasure. They only have one job, and most of them do this job exceptionally well, so don’t be shy. Put these professionals to work!
On a more specific, personal, level, sex toys come in many shapes, sizes, colors and types — for all sorts of uses. Many playthings have ergonomic design, meaning they’re specifically created to hit hotspots in the most pleasurable ways possible. Rather than serve as a substitution for sex, you can always use sex toys to get you in the mood. So bring a different “vibe” to the mix or stimulate multiple areas of the body at once.
You can use sex toys during partnered play without being dependent on them. If you’re not sure where to start — or you’re worried about being overshadowed by a rubber dong — try a vibrating cockring or a vibrator for couples, so you can increase intimacy and feel more connected.
The Sex Life has Rounded Third
Focus on HER
Nothing primes the body for more intense orgasms like skilled foreplay. If you want to give her the orgasm of all orgasms, put her pleasure front and center. And that means putting your own orgasm on the back burner, while you light her fire.
Make it your mission to make her feel as sexy as possible. Think of yourself as the world’s greatest explorer of climaxes and discover her erogenous zones. Constantly experiment and touch her with your hands and mouth in ways she’s never-before experienced. (But do remember to catalogue those favorites you discover.)
Bottom line — as it were — don’t hurry the penetration. You want to work all of her hotspots properly. You’ll know when you’ve reached her summit because she’ll be absolutely begging you to be inside her. Trust us: Passion and the suspense of all the joys to come (again, as it were) will always be the keys to inspiring the happiest of endings.
Sex Life Fulfilled
If you are the type of lover that only thinks about your own pleasure, then (A) skip all murkiness and heartache of relationships entirely. Go back to the “toys” idea we mentioned, and make your sex life purely personal. You’ll be doing everyone a favor. And (B), what are you doing here anyway? Shouldn’t you already be at the making a sandwich part? Make yourself a “hero” to all women and simply stay away from them.
