You think you know how to please her between the sheets, but here are a few things you never knew she actually wanted.
DIRTY TALK
There’s a fine line with dirty talk—you have to know your audience. Unfortunately, in today’s quick-fix hookup culture, we are intimate with strangers before we know their last names. Women love a little dirty talk but start slowly, maybe with a few vanilla quips, and gauge her reaction before you go full-throttle. And always refrain from any “Daddy” rhetoric unless she initiates it.
KISSING IS KEY
Don’t forget the art of making out. Kissing can be so sensual and stimulating, so why not enjoy it? There’s nothing like a really passionate kiss that goes from tender to tantalizing. Focus on kissing. Women love it.
UNWRAP HER
In the heat of the moment, ripping off both party’s clothes in a split second can seem like the easiest way to get from A to orgasm, but when it comes to the bedroom, teasing is key. Women want to be unwrapped slowly, like a gift you are trying to savor, not torn open with the crazed greed of a child. Go layer by layer and pay attention to every erogenous zone along the way.
WORSHIP HER DURING FOREPLAY
All women love to feel wanted, especially when it seems like you just can’t get enough of us. Amplify this feeling during foreplay with a little worship. We’re not talking about kissing our feet and acting like a sniveling sycophant. Just pay careful attention to every part of our body while you make your way across our skin. Taunt and tease us. Just like the Stone Roses, we want to be adored.
CONSTANT STIMULATION
Women are complex and their anatomy even more so. However, there’s one thing that isn’t that complicated—we love clitoral stimulation. Whether you reach around and please us while in doggie-style or zero in when our legs are wrapped around your neck, we’ll always be grateful. And don’t forget there are so many fabulous toys out there (see the Fin by Dame Products, No. 15) that can do the work for you. We love it when a vibrator is brought into the mix.
GET A LITTLE ROUGH
In the throes of some serious passion, we like it when things get a little rough. But again, know your audience. This is something you should suss out with each partner. Nonverbal cues are crucial. Sex is all about the sizzle and being intuitive. Use your common sense and social skills when it comes to stepping up the rumble. Remember, most women who want things rough will usually ask for it if they think you’re playing it too vanilla.
TEASE THE BACK DOOR
When it comes to back there, no one wants a shocker. However, we love a little stimulation, especially when things get going. A light teasing with your fingers, or even introducing a small vibrating butt plug into the mix is sometimes just enough to send us over the edge.
EYE CONTACT
We will never admit it, but catching you in that passionate, I-want-to-fuck-you-forever eye contact while deep in the moment is the cherry on the sex sundae. It’s so intimate and intense that we almost can’t believe something this perfect isn’t being caught on film. Look us in the eyes. We love it.
VERBAL ENCOURAGEMENT
Remember in Chasing Amy when Banky told Amy a woman should let a guy know how he’s doing during oral sex? “You gotta handle it like CNN or the Weather Channel—constant updates.” We, like Banky, also need some words of encouragement when we’re going down. Let us know when we’re blowing your mind, or when something we’re doing has you twisted in knots. We want to please you, so hearing you moan is a serious reward.
VIBRATOR, PLEASE
Whether we admit it or not, all women love it when a vibrator creeps its way into the mix. Lucky for you, the market is replete with sleek, safe, sexy toys that are both discrete and powerful. So no matter what toy you choose, just be sure to keep that thing fully charged and ready to go.
