Research drawn from the author’s two overwhelming best-sellers reveals that men have everything to gain when they learn what women have always known … and how to do it.
What (Stimulation) Women Really Want From A Lover
Would learning more about clitoral stimulation make sex more enjoyable for men? Most men do not think their sexual relationships are all that they could be. They resent pressures on them to perform. They do not always want to take the lead, be responsible for the entire “success” or “failure” of the sexual relationship and “giving” the woman an orgasm. The old, mechanistic conception of male sexuality — basically a question of getting an erection, penetrating the woman, and reaching orgasm — is in large part a pattern created and perpetrated by our culture, not, as is commonly thought, an inevitable biological outgrowth of the “male sex drive.” Men have everything to gain from leaving this pattern behind and at the same time from developing a more realistic understanding of women’s orgasms, making their sexual relationships with women into something much more equal, something new.
Most men know that most women do not orgasm regularly with them. In my recent study of male sexuality, men were often unsure whether women were having orgasms with them — frequently saying they felt uncomfortable, guilty, “inadequate,” or defensive about this. There was an undertone of anger and frustration in many of the answers: “What’s wrong with women that they have such difficulty having orgasm?” Or, “When she doesn’t have orgasm during intercourse I feel sort of selfish, as if I got more out if it than she did.” Or, “I feel like I’ve ripped her off.” One married man said, “I frequently get a ‘You go ahead, dear, I’m too tired’ or an ‘I can’t,’ etc. — which leaves me feeling as if I’m using her. It means: ‘Do your thing alone and get it over with.’” A man in his twenties asks himself, “I wonder whether I should be sticking myself in her or not. What’s in it for her? Is this some sort of martyr shtick?”
Although most men realize that women do not orgasm with them regularly during intercourse, most men still believe women should orgasm while the man is thrusting during intercourse. Men in general as yet have very little understanding of women’s need for clitoral stimulation. Only a small percentage of the over 7,000 men who participated in The Hite Report on Male Sexuality answered the questions on clitoral stimulation with any real understanding of how to help women orgasm through clitoral stimulation. On the other hand, the overwhelming majority of women who responded to my study of women’s sexuality reported that they usually did not orgasm during intercourse and, in fact, needed more direct clitoral stimulation — in most cases separate from intercourse. They also said that they frequently felt pressured to fake orgasm during intercourse and were afraid to tell the men in their lives how they could orgasm more easily.
The stereotype in our society that says women have a “problem” having orgasm is false. It is not women who have a “problem” but society that has a problem accepting how women do orgasm. Almost all women can stimulate themselves to orgasm easily, quickly, and with great physical pleasure. The implication of this is that the same type of clitoral stimulation should be included as a regular part of sex between a man and a woman.
It is very difficult, however, for many men to realize that what they have been taught for so long — that is, that thrusting during intercourse “should” make the woman orgasm — is inaccurate. It is even harder, in some cases, for men to learn, or admit they want to learn, new ways of stimulating women to orgasm.
The idea of giving a woman clitoral stimulation to orgasm makes most men nervous and uncomfortable, probably because most have not yet tried it, especially not to orgasm. They have been taught to focus sexual activity on the penis, ignoring many other important aspects of their sexuality even though, as The Hite Report shows, they are losing out on many other kinds of pleasure. If clitoral stimulation is practiced by men, there is a tendency to think of it as “foreplay.” Clitoral stimulation to orgasm is not so difficult to learn, however, and men who have learned how to do it frequently find it to be a great experience, with many levels of feelings and benefits for both people.
How do men feel about giving a woman an orgasm by clitoral stimulation with the hand? Although most men do not know that orgasm via clitoral stimulation is the norm for most women, some of those in my study tell how they first felt when they realized that, contrary to cultural stereotypes, clitoral stimulation is more important for most women’s orgasms than intercourse itself. “I always assumed there was something wrong with them if they couldn’t orgasm with each intercourse with clitoral stimulation,” says one man. “That prejudice dies hard. Although now I know what the truth is, doubts still remain, just below rational consciousness.” Another man, who does regularly practice clitoral stimulation, says, “I always feel awkward about it when I’m doing it. I mean, I know this is what gives women orgasms, but do other men really do this? I have never seen a picture of one doing this, so it must not be too common. Maybe it’s weird — a ‘real man’ shouldn’t have to do it. I know it’s not true, but that’s how I feel. I wouldn’t brag about it.”
“I just let myself drift on the sea of an extended kind of sex, her having many orgasms, my erections coming and going. We turned each other inside out.”
As one college student put it, “I was glad to find out from The Hite Report that the need for clitoral stimulation is normal. It makes me feel a little less weird when I do it! I know it’s ridiculous to feel so inhibited, but I just can’t get over it.”
One man puzzled over this information and its implications: “My wife has never orgasmed during intercourse, or in my presence, while nearly every time we have had intercourse, I have. Never! Here is the way I feel about it. I rejoice in the fact that I can orgasm during intercourse…. My orgasm is in part a gift from her. This is why it means so much more to me than masturbatory orgasm. But I feel bothered I cannot bring her to orgasm during a mutual experience. I do not feel bothered because ‘it is my job.’ I want to bring her to orgasm because I feel so much ecstasy when I come while having coitus with her that I want her to feel it too. When I come and she does not, I feel one-sided, lonely. Can you sympathize or empathize with me? But now, since we are both aware of The Hite Report on female sexuality, my wife no longer feels inferior about not being able to ‘come’ with me, and I feel more realistic about the reality of female orgasm. However, this does not change my desire to be a part of her orgasm, although we have not found a way to do this yet. As for helping my wife to come before or after I come, I feel all game and willing to participate in this, although we haven’t done it yet. She feels a bit embarrassed to stimulate herself in front of me. This is okay. I feel this is only a stage, a learning period toward mutual liberation where our sexuality is concerned, and a period which our emotions for each other will enable us to work out.”
One man who does practice manual clitoral stimulation with his wife relates his own mixed feelings: “I hate to admit it, but my wife’s way of having orgasm used to really irritate me. She always clenches her legs together, sometimes even twists them together, while I am supposed to rub her clitoris. After all I had heard about a woman’s spreading her legs meaning she wants you, I felt that this was a rejection, and that there was something weird about her. It took a couple of years before we could talk about this. In the beginning, I just did what I thought she wanted, but I really resented it, and gradually I began to do it less and less enthusiastically. Finally, we had a fight about it. She said she thought I resented her orgasms, and I said I thought she was being selfish when she had them. She didn’t need me at all. I wasn’t involved. I wasn’t inside her, and I wasn’t getting stimulated (although I have to admit that sometimes it was pretty sexy, with her moaning and groaning, writhing, and getting hot and sweaty, saying she loved me and grabbing me after — wow, very passionate kisses). Anyway, I still resented it. She was very hurt that I didn’t enjoy her orgasms, and she didn’t want to have sex for a while. That got me started thinking: what was the point of sex anyway? It’s taken me a long time to begin to accept that this is how she (women?) has orgasm, and that it doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with me because she doesn’t do it during intercourse. I mean, I know rationally that this is it, clitoral stimulation, and I really dig it. But at the same time, the myth of how it should be is still there.”
However, some unusual men (and surprisingly, this includes men of all ages and every educational background) have accepted the information quickly and with relief, especially when they had thought that the “problem” was their fault. “My wife has never orgasmed from intercourse,” says a lawyer who has been married for five years. “I used to feel that something was wrong with my technique or with my wife’s frame of mind (mental block). Now all that is gone and forgotten. She can always orgasm from clitoral stimulation, so we are not missing something.” Another man, a construction worker, says, “I can’t believe we have been deceived so long about the penis-vagina orgasm. I am sure my wife and I would have developed much more sensibly if we had known this fact thirty-five years ago. I often felt sad and puzzled that she did not orgasm from intercourse. I was relieved to find out that this is normal.”
Some men have discovered that clitoral stimulation has awakened their own sexuality: “Through almost eleven years of marriage, I believed that orgasm through intercourse was the rule rather than the exception,” relates one man. “In the last year a new lover entered my life, and it is with her that I began to understand the function of the clitoris and the importance of manual stimulation. It has opened up a whole new side of sexuality.” Another man in his thirties had found it even more of a change: “For years and years I worried that I would not have an erection at the proper moment, that she would not have orgasm often enough, and that we would fight afterward. What a waste of time! After I began stimulating her to orgasm separately from intercourse, a whole new world of sexual feeling emerged in both my wife and myself. We no longer ‘had’ to do anything, and there was no longer the pressure that I would come and she wouldn’t. She could always stimulate herself whenever she wanted with her own hand. I learned to love helping her do that and to just let myself drift on the sea of an extended kind of sex, her having many orgasms, my erections coming and going, but who cares. We turned each other inside out.”
How can men most reliably stimulate women to orgasms? This usually involves some form of stimulation of the clitoral/ mons area, that is, stimulation of the exterior pubic area, the front of the vulva. This can be done by hand, by mouth, with the penis used outside the vagina against the vulva and clitoris, or by the woman using her own hand.
One twenty-nine-year-old man describes his first experience in detail: “One thing I never knew about before her, was clitoral stimulation. I used to think that my role was to fuck until I had an orgasm, and that the very best was to orgasm simultaneously. I thought all vaginal spasms were the contractions of female orgasms — they felt great to me. I was sure (this was with an ex-lover) that I knew when she was orgasming and that she knew when I was (she could feel the hot sperm), even though we didn’t ask each other very often. I never masturbated her to orgasm. I didn’t know how to, didn’t ask. I thought sticking a finger in her vagina was masturbating her. Sometimes, during intercourse, I realized she didn’t orgasm. I would feel that I hadn’t fucked as well that day (or long enough); I had let her down. But we never discussed it. We just went to sleep. The thing I have wondered about since we broke up is whether or not she had orgasms as often as I assumed she did, and also whether she faked them regularly, as some of the women in The Hite Report said they did. At the time, my masculinity and ego would have been miniaturized beyond comprehension.
“When I read that women usually don’t orgasm from intercourse, my face fell. Imagine that! I had believed all this time that I could give women an orgasm by fucking them. Suddenly this fundamental belief of mine was shattered. I felt helpless and really embarrassed. It seems so funny now, but it was really a crisis when I found this out. A complete ego crisis. Not only was my ego shot, but now I had to face the problem of how to give my lover an orgasm.
“The first time my lover asked me to give her an orgasm I she told me to hold my hand in a fist and put it on her pubic mound and to move it. My confidence was on the line.”
“The first time my lover asked me to give her an orgasm, she told me to hold my hand in a fist and put it on her pubic mound and to move it. I wasn’t in a real comfortable position. I also felt nervous because she said I kept changing the rhythm and wasn’t doing it the same way all the time. I’d speed it up and slow it down and move in different directions. Then she told me not to do it like that. I started feeling kind of insecure, because I thought — well, I don’t know if I am really doing this right — plus I couldn’t anticipate when she was going to have an orgasm. I didn’t know how long I was going to have to keep on doing this. I didn’t know if someone else could do it better than me. My confidence was on the line. I felt she could easily humiliate me for not knowing how to do it, by criticizing me — like, ‘Hey, man, haven’t you ever done this before?’ But she didn’t say anything. She just moved my hand back down there and told me to just do one thing, and don’t move around.
“After a while, when I kept trying, she was really excited and breathing heavy. Her whole body was tensing up, with her legs tight together and straight out — and then she got really tense and tight and moaned and held herself like that for a few minutes. Then she told me she had come. It was a revelation for me. I really loved it! What was really exciting was that she showed me exactly what to do. That meant she was very excited, too, excited enough to want me to do it to her. It made me feel really close to her and special, really intimate. I felt: how could we be any closer?”
How do most men perform clitoral stimulation by hand? As a salesman in his thirties explains: “When I want to help her have an orgasm, I lie by her side as she lies on her back. Then I gently pull her pubic hairs, stroking gently and rhythmically — I prefer to use my thumb, which is softer, in a circular movement on the clitoris. After I feel and see that the arousal plateau is higher, I use my own lubrication on my index and middle finger so I can smoothly rub the labia minora. At all times I keep rubbing the clitoris. I encourage my wife to touch her breasts (if I’m not sucking her nipples).”
Another man, newly married, says: “I rub the flat of my hand over her pubic hair, sometimes even making slight tapping motions in the beginning. Then I have to keep my motions steady and in the same basic place, with the same basic (medium) pressure. Her knees and legs are together, and she holds me around the neck, becoming more and more tense and rigid and stiff until she finally breaks loose in orgasm. Usually, she wants me to do it again right away. I love it, so I do. Her whole body is close up against mine while she holds onto me with her arms around my neck. It is quite an experience.”
One young man gave a beautiful, detailed description of his first experience: “At the time I didn’t know her real well. I’d only known her for six weeks. When I came over that afternoon, she said, ‘Let’s sit down for a while.’ She sat down, leaning her back against my chest, and I had my arm around her, with my hand resting on her stomach. I felt really close to her. We were sort of slouched down in the couch. She said, ‘I want to have an orgasm. Look — I’ll show you how to do it.’ She put my hand on her pubic area, with hers on top, and started moving and pressing my hand against her, ever so slightly. Gradually she began to stiffen her body, and she straightened her legs out in front of her. She started moving our hands really fast, getting even stiffer. Then, suddenly, she came in a kind of jerking spasm. She smiled and said it was wonderful and would I mind doing it again! It was great, the way she was breathing. And the sounds? Well, I felt like there were a lot of revelations made that day to me. When I went home later on, I felt like I’d been doing something really special, really very beautiful that I hadn’t expected to be like that.”
It is much easier for men to know when a woman has an orgasm in this way than during intercourse. Several men described the body changes that they have observed: “There is a raising or stiffening of her body.” “Her entire body goes rigid and spasmodic.” “Her body tenses and then she stops breathing.” “She breathes hard and then holds her breath. Her vagina contracts, and her knees must be bent and apart.” And finally, “She tenses and becomes quiet, with a look of ecstatic agony on her face.”
Most men who have tried manual clitoral stimulation express doubts about their expertise at it. As one man puts it, “I don’t feel sublimely confident when dealing with a clitoris; the organ seems very picky about what it likes and doesn’t like. I feel much better if my partner will indicate to me what feels good.” A seventeen-year-old says appealingly, “Sometimes I can’t find a woman’s clitoris. Either I am constantly getting lost or else the damn thing moves around a lot.” And one man involved in a five-year relationship explains, “She stays quite still during the early stages of stimulation. It took a few times to realize that this was her way of focusing on what was going on — not a signal that she didn’t feel anything.”
Some men, when asked “Do you become sexually excited by stimulating your partner?”, respond very enthusiastically. “I get very excited,” says one engaged man. “When she orgasms I feel so good I feel we are flying. My girlfriend had multiple orgasms. It was marvelous. I thought she’d go mad. During her orgasm she held me tightly. That was the best.” Another adds, “Sometimes she’s had five or six orgasms during one time in bed, at which point she gets so worked up and I get so worked up my mind is going crazy. She’s really a turn-on. I love the way she smells and feels when that’s going on.”
A few men use their penis against the woman’s clitoris: “I enjoy so much to lie steady next to and hold my girl in my arms, with very tender and steady kissing. In this position, with her breasts pressing against me, I can feel her butt with my hands, and press my penis into her pubic hair. Sometimes, too, I hold my penis in my hand and stimulate her clitoris with the head.”
Another form of clitoral stimulation some men use is manual stimulation of the clitoral area during intercourse. As one man describes it, “Most of the time she orgasms by my stroking her clit with my finger while we are having intercourse.” Another says, “My wife usually orgasms when I get on top. I support my body high enough so she can use her fingers while I am inside.” Another very open man explains, “Our method for obtaining mutual orgasm is for me to enter from behind while she is lying down, applying a vibrator to the Clitoris.” But some men found this difficult: “Clitoral stimulation during intercourse has always seemed distracting whether it was by my own hand or hers. It was uncomfortable and awkward. If it must be done, I would rather it be done by the woman herself, which gives her the control over technique that would seem more beneficial to her.”
Sometimes clitoral stimulation during intercourse is possible, without manual stimulation. Thirty percent of the women in my study could orgasm during intercourse; however, they say that this is the result of going after the stimulation they need (usually while on top, pressing their pubic area against the man’s) rather than from the style or duration of the man’s thrusting in itself. In other words, this clitoral stimulation is usually a question of contact between the man’s pubic bone and the woman’s clitoral area — especially with the woman on top. Some men describe how this works during intercourse: “She likes to be on top, rubbing my pubic bone with my penis in her. She brings herself off fastest that way.” Another man, rather surprised, says, “The woman I am currently involved with usually has orgasm by being on top and humping me; therefore, her clitoris is not being stimulated ‘directly’ (i.e., with fingers) but rather by rubbing against the bone (mons?) above my penis.” Another man in his twenties says, “Sometimes we lie quite still and press our pubic bones together. This works best with the woman on top and is most stimulating to her.”
“When I want to help her have an orgasm, I lie by her side. I gently pull her hairs. I prefer to use my thumb, which is softer, in a circular movement on the clitoris.”
Another man, an accountant, adds, “Though some women have told me that they can come by intercourse only, I find that they sooner or later accompany their orgasms by spreading their legs wide and pressing me hard against them so they can rub their clitoral area against my pubic area. Gradually, over the years, I have changed my technique, so that now, instead of my former in-and-out movement, I insert my prick all the way and then press my pubic area hard against the clitoral region and move it back and forth slowly and regularly until my partner has come as many times as she wants to. Then I come.”
The fact that these methods can work for some women in some situations does not imply that all women “should” be able to make them work. There is an unfortunate tendency in some men’s thinking to hope or assume, if the respondent is aware of the statistics of The Hite Report, that his partner is among the 30 percent of women who do get clitoral stimulation during intercourse (adequate to orgasm) — and a further tendency to believe that the most “mature” and “best” women are naturally among the 30 percent.
Can a woman also stimulate herself manually while she is with a man? This can be an extremely intimate activity, while at the same time removing many frustrations and pressures from both the woman and the man. Most men, however, have never experienced a woman stimulating herself while close to them; for most men, having the woman give herself an orgasm is a new idea. As one man in his thirties says, “No woman has ever shown me how she does it, or even admitted to masturbation.” In fact, many men are shocked by the idea that their partner can masturbate to orgasm at all, even when alone.
Many men do not like the idea of a woman stimulating herself while with them, and express such reactions as “I would feel inadequate” or “I would resent it.” Another speaks bluntly: “I hope it never happens. I would get up and leave. Why does she need me?” Some men, however, express an openness toward trying it: “It’s never happened. But why shouldn’t she?” And a few men say they like it very much: “It’s a great experience to share. It makes me freer.” A married man says, “It is a beautiful sight. My job is to accompany her and to help her along the way.” And another: “My relations with my wife have improved a great deal, and I’m sure part of it has to do with the impact of the women’s-liberation movement. She, my wife, seems warmer, more responsive. All of a sudden, after thirty years, she feels free to masturbate in my presence without embarrassment, and vice versa. That is significant, and it has brought us closer together.” Finally, a beautiful reply: “I help my wife have an orgasm with my thigh between her legs and some gentle fondling of her breasts and some sexy whispering in her ear while she rubs against me. I’m not annoyed, just happy to be part of it.”
Although most men like cunnilingus and are more familiar with it than with manual stimulation, it is not a major means for their giving women clitoral stimulation to orgasm; most still think of it as “foreplay.” While generalized oral sex can be extremely pleasurable, both physically and emotionally, and even preferable to many women, lack of precise clitoral stimulation for orgasm is a drawback if no other provision is made for the woman’s orgasm during sex. Only one-third of the men in my study said they frequently continued cunnilingus until after the woman reached orgasm. Some of these men give descriptions of the type of stimulation they use during cunnilingus to lead to orgasm, stimulation that is highly individual for each woman: “I enjoy cunnilingus with my wife in every way,” says one man. “I like her taste, her smell, my head squeezed between her lovely thighs, and licking her beautiful cunt and anus. I slowly lick her labia, from the clitoris all the way to her anus and back again, stopping on her clitoris finally, sucking it gently with my lips and tongue. When her hips begin to move, I know her orgasm is imminent. I then suck her clitoris a little harder until her whole body is in one beautiful orgasm. Her pelvis thrusts, her head moves from side to side, she gasps, moans, and grabs my head in her hands and pushes it against her until her contractions and spasms end. Bringing her to orgasm this way makes me feel great. I really think she has her best orgasms from cunnilingus, but she says she is more emotionally satisfied with orgasm from penile penetration. I believe she is still inhibited about oral sex from her upbringing and religious background.”
Some men point out that orgasm during cunnilingus is not always so easy to create. “Sometimes I put the clitoris between my lips softly and then suck on it for a while,” one man explains. “She seems to like a lot of pressure, rubbing hard against the pubic bone. As yet I haven’t perfected the technique, but I want to work on it.” Another man in his early twenties expressed his frustration in this regard: “Women seem to hold back when I’m down there. I hardly ever receive any directions. Perhaps I’m missing the subtle hints women are said to give. If so, maybe they are using too much subtlety. Men are not mind readers.”
Others emphasize that the type of stimulation women need varies greatly: “Exactly what I do depends on the particular woman. Some women like it when my mouth is tight around the clitoris and my tongue moves back and forth. Some like up-and-down motion more; some like the whole area to be moved around without very much direct stimulation of the clitoris.” Some men stress the importance of maintaining a sensitive awareness of the woman’s reactions during stimulation: “Sometimes she moves a little bit up or down, or sideways, to get special stimulation at one point or another. Sometimes she murmurs, ‘That’s good! That’s good!’ or ‘I love that — just keep doing that. Don’t stop.’ These are all cues to me in helping her have an orgasm.”
A few men express great pleasure at watching and feeling the woman orgasm via cunnilingus: “Do I enjoy cunnilingus? I love it. The only thing I can think of that is better than watching a woman have an orgasm, hearing the gasps of ecstasy, and watching her body contract and heave — is having an orgasm myself. It’s just great. I like it because I can totally see the pleasure that I’m giving her. It’s a very reassuring thing that she needs me as much as I need her.” Another man explains: “It’s really a revelation to see a woman this way. I feel like I have total control over her orgasm and, indeed, over her entire body, especially when she clamps her legs tight around me and clutches me in great, spasmodic movements to her climax. It’s an incredible turn-on to know I’m giving her such pleasure. I come very close to orgasm myself.”
But many men say that they don’t feel comfortable initiating clitoral stimulation or changing the pattern of sex; they feel it is the woman’s responsibility to tell them, to speak up about the stimulation they need for orgasm: “If she doesn’t have an orgasm, it’s her fault. I’m not a mind reader. She has to tell me what to do.” Another states angrily, “Her orgasm is her own responsibility. I never claimed to be perfect when I hired on.” It is true that everyone does, in the final analysis, make his or her own orgasm. However, to imply that women are not taking enough responsibility for what goes on in sex overlooks the fact that most “sex” is still carried on according to the old rules — that is, it is assumed that intercourse is sex; it is assumed that intercourse will be included and that the man has the right to this stimulation and to his orgasm. The man has social approval and encouragement for the stimulation he needs and for his orgasm, while the woman’s situation is the opposite: the stimulation she needs for orgasm has been considered “abnormal,” and, in addition, women who have asserted their needs and desires have often been called “aggressive,” “demanding,” or “dominating.” Women’s need for clitoral stimulation is not valued and esteemed. In other words, our pattern of sex does not put men in the position of having to ask for the stimulation they need; “sex” should end with intercourse and male orgasm, where — as women must request “special” (“extra”) stimulation. As one man puts it, “If the woman needs some special stimulation, she should let the guy know.”
But another man expresses a different point of view: “I don’t believe that society has allowed a woman to demand the sort of stimulation she needs for sexual fulfillment. You can ask nearly any man if he’s a good lover, and you’ll get a leer and wink and something like ‘I never had any complaints.’ Reason: in his experience, women have been too intimidated or shy to speak up. I think the women’s movement has been instrumental in changing this, however slowly.” Another man: “I believe that we as men have to consistently try to block our tendencies to believe that women don’t have orgasms. We have to really push women to show us what they like and how they orgasm, and not be satisfied with the first few things they say but keep trying! It’s hard for them to open up after centuries of repression.”
Do most men want to know about clitoral stimulation? It is difficult to believe any man would want a woman to help him orgasm, then go masturbate to have her own orgasm alone — never to share it, never to be together. Men unfamiliar with clitoral stimulation sometimes react to the idea with displeasure, thinking it will not be a pleasure for them, but they are mistaken. Clitoral stimulation to orgasm can be extremely intense, exciting, and exotic — and it can also be an expansion, a going to another level with another person, finding a new part of oneself. If a woman has the freedom to really be herself with another person, this will create a great expansion of their relationship and bring increased love, respect, and trust.
Some four decades later, you can still buy the book on Female Sexuality. Oddly enough — or not — the book on Male Sexuality has gone out of print, so you’ll need to track down used (or pricey) printed versions of that one. So the Female version was popular enough that it was worth reproducing for digital readers, and the Male version … was not. You may draw your own conclusions from that fact, as any theories we might have would likely get us in trouble with the PC Police (and not the computer kind).
Demonstrating the longevity of her pioneering spirit, Shere Hite died in September of 2020. Now we have gone in search of the next general in the sexual revolution for women. Should be a fun journey.
